Is honesty and integrity a realy important attribute in order to sustain a long lasting success in life?In bussiness? in relationships?
One has to look at what has been happening lately in the world financial markets and in marriage relationships to answer for it self.
Will leaders learn how to control money and greed, instead of money and greed controling them?
Will couples enter a covenant of marriage for the right reasons?
Will the whats in it for me attitude, ever change?
Money has power but uncontrolled power will destroy a person!Money are not evil and it is nothing wrong with having money but been possessed by money its the root of all evil!Today our society has moved in the site of corruption,. Moral values have changed.People with power try building business with fraud, and integrity and honesty no longer considered as an important part in their lives, but the suddenly always arrives at some stage and how great is that fall!
Infidelity has become a plague. The marriage bed has been defiled by many, and with the help of the internet the door to sexual imorality has been opened wide.It has been a common pass time for married businessman/women, to find a lover on the internet.Unfortunatly that path always leads to distraction!
Proverbs 6:32 says "Whoever commits adultery with a women/man lacks understanding;He who does destroys his own soul.33 Wounds and dishoner he will get, and his reproach will not be wiped away.34for jealousy is a husbands/wives fury.Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.35 he will accept no recompence, nor will he be appeased though you give many gifts."
Infidelity brakes the marriage appart.A marriage that is broken by infidelity can never be whole again. Its likened to a cup that has been broken, and been glued back together"You will always see the cracks".Hebrews 13:4"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled;but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"
Many couples have been trying to cover the damage that infidelity has cause in their relationship pretending all is well, or will be well with time, but it is like a broken cup that has been put together "you always can see the cracks"
The trouble had started way before the infidelity took place, that marriage was wrong from the start! Something was missing "God"!
Jesus said "THOSE WHO GOD PUT TOGETHER" Friends how many couples do you know who God put together?I only know of few.
Many of you who know me, have heard me say that my first marriage was arranged by my parents and the second by the devil.Yes my life was a mess because God was not in it.
Many couples had enter into marriage for the wrong reasons,they have never asked God for His advice and now they pay the price!
Some are getting divorce, some are battling ilnesses because they had just closed their eyes to the real problems, pretending in public all is well, and cried in secret for years.Now ill health has taken control and as a result -some are bitter, some are angry, some have turned into food for comfort, hating themselves even more each time they face the mirror, some are trying escape travel, but they all have one thing in common they are all unhappy because God had been excluded"
A fake smile is visible to all, it speaks one thousand words without a word spoken!
"My dear friends only "Love" breeds happiness and joy, there is no contentment without love, there is no joy without love, there is no peace without love, and many doctors believe that our emotions have a lot to do with our physical health.
Love is the greatest gift of all,because love is from God for love is God and without Him love is absent.
But love is happy with the truth and it never fails!
Yes Friends Honesty and integrity is the foundation for a successful marriage! Ephesians 5:22 says Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord
25"Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.
28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies;he who loves his wife loves himself.
My advice to couples whos marriage has been shuttered because one of the partners was unfaithful is this.
You cant stay together because of the kids ,finances, or for any other reason but one.
"Wanting to spend the rest of your lives in the arms of each other with love like God intended for couples to be!"
You have two options therefore one is divorce, the other is total trust in God. That will require a lot of prayer and forgiveness from both parties .
Are you willing ?
Your marriage can be restored by the power of God ,but it will take a lots of time to build that bond of trust, it will require a lot of honest communication between you, lots of effort and understanding from both parties, and a lots of love and constant forgiveness.
It will be a new kind of relationship nothing like you had in the past, because as I said before like the broken cup that has been glued together you will always see the cracks.
Therefore each time you do, you must change your focus, turn your eyes on God and forgive all parties who contributed to the cause of the cracks.
Are you willing?
Jesus talked about the two house builders"So then anyone who hears these words of mine and obeys them is like a wise man who built his house on a rock. The rain poured down, the rivers flooded over and the wind blew hard against that house but it did not fall because it was build on rock.
but anyone who hears these words of mine and does not obey them is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.The rain poured down the rivers flooded over the wind blew hard against that house and it fell and what a terrible fall that was.
Likewise a good business cannot be sustained without honesty and integrity.
IN1923 eight man controled more wealth then there was in the US treasury!
*Arthur Cutten -the great wheat speculator
*Charles Schwab- president of the largest steel company in America
*Albert Fall- the secretary of interior in president Harding's cabinet
*Leon Fraser-The president of the bank of international Settlements
*Howard Hopson- the president of the largest gas company
*Ivar Kreuger- Head of the world's greatest monopoly
*Jesse Livermore-the great "bear" on wall street
*Richard Whitney- president of the new york Stock Exchange
These men were "movers and shakers of their time"but something was terribly wrong with this men's lives.
They new how to make money but they build their fortunes on shaky foundations.
They allowed money to control them and forgot that honesty and integrity is the solid rock foundation were long lasting success is build on it!
Twenty five years latter
*Arther Cutten was insolvent and died abroad!
*Charles Schwab, went bankrupt!
*Samuel Insull, died in foreign land penniless and a fugitive from justice!
*Howard Hopson was insane!
*Richard Whitney had just been released from Sing-Sing prison!
*Albert Fall had just been pardoned from prison and died at home, broke!
*Jesse Livermore committed suicide.
*Ivan Krueger committed suicide.
*Leon Fraser committed suicide.
In the book of proverbs we find the following
16:25 There is a way that seems right to a man but its end is the way of death"
20:7The righteous man walks in his integrity, his children are blessed after him"
22:1 A good name is to be chosen rather then great riches"
26:27 Whoever digs a pit will fall into it"
28:29 A man with an evil eye hasten after riches, and does not consider that poverty will come upon him"
20:17 Bread gained by deceit is sweet to a man,but afterwards his mouth will be filled with gravel"
21:6 Getting treasures by a lying tongue is the fleeting fantasy of those who seek death"
18:11"The rich mans wealth is his strong city,and like a high wall in his own esteem"
5:22 "His own iniquities entrap the wicket man,and he is caught in the cords of his sin"
6:15 "Therefore his calamity shall come suddenly,suddenly he shall be broken withought remedy"